1 Paralyzing Blogging Limiting Belief and How to Slay this Dastardly Demon

blogging limiting beliefs

I am staring at a blank page here in Myanmar.

I am writing these words – offline – in a Word document but my web browser remains blank. Clear. A casualty of a less than stellar Burmese internet connection.

My wife Kelli and I prepared ourselves for this. We knew this country had recently opened up to the outside world. Having a strong 4G network is not high on the list of Myanmar priorities these days.

But even though I was aware of this issue I still have to be mindful of a paralyzing blogging limiting belief dancing around in my monkey mind, bedeviling me like a nasty little demon, trying to snuff out my successful blogging actions.

The limiting belief?

“It is a waste of time.”

Exhibit A: I sat down to write this blog post. But my ego chatter told me persistently:

“Writing this post is a waste of time because you won’t be able to upload said post to Build Your Own Blog, because the internet will be down, or, really weak.”

When I first tried to visit an individual blog post or page from my blog when arriving to Myanmar I was met by a 20 minute delay until I finally accepted this fact: I will rarely if ever be able to visit an individual post or page on my blog here in Myanmar. I logged in through my VPN. Same deal. Wacky foreign connection bit which happens in certain countries.

I wanted to post a comment to an article on Pro Blogger. But I believed writing the thorough, 3 to 5 paragraph comment would be a waste of time because the internet would likely crash while I was reading the comment.

1080 p Videos? Not Happening Now But Still Not a Waste of Time

I love recording and uploading 1080 p videos to Facebook with my snazzy little camera. Forget it, here in Myanmar. Totally impossible.

However, I could record 1080 p videos out the yingyang and upload them when we are not in Yangon, Bagan or any other town in the nation formerly known as Burma.

This shows that nothing is a waste of time.

I guess I kinda shot that blogging limiting belief to bits.

Seems easy to do. But if you look around the blog-o-sphere almost all struggles are rooted in the “It is a waste of time” limiting belief a stunning majority of bloggers cling to.

This limiting belief is negatively applied to:

–guest posting (waste of time; my guest post will be rejected, anyway)
–blog commenting (waste of time; who reads blog comments?)
–posting to your own blog (waste of time; I have so few readers as it is)
–sharing other blogger’s posts on social media (waste of time; I have to worry about myself aka A1 before I focus on other bloggers

The list shockingly can go on forever. And that’s just blogging-related stuff.

Imagine how horrifying the experience if you take stock of your life and realize you’re afraid to chase your dreams because you viewed doing so as “a waste of time”?

How to Slay the Demon

I recall personal development guru Steve Pavlina once explain how if you’re going to spend the time and energy to do something you may as well do it right.

If I am going to take 30 minutes to write this blog post I will:

–share practical tips for identifying and dissolving this demon
–work in a personal story about how I faced and slayed the demon
–add some meat to the post; 1,000 words or longer

For me, “doing something right” means “doing something mainly for the fun of it.”

I have been busy with traveling through Myanmar over the past week. Toss in poor internet connections and I admit; until today, writing this guest post would not have been fun. I would have forced it out, ensuring that it wasn’t fun and guaranteeing I wouldn’t do it right.

Since I’m having fun with this post I will do it right. Feeling like I’m having fun AND doing it right instantly dissolves the “It’s a freaking waste of time” limiting belief that dances around in my head, almost like a hyper active song bird nervously flitting from branch to branch on an imposing, huge oak tree.

The Blanket Attitude/Energy/Intent of Mine

I take this attitude to blogging (and life): I am in the perfect place at the perfect time, so nothing is a waste of time.

Far from being an enlightened being here – the Buddhist monks here in SE Asia haven’t rubbed off *that* much on me – but I do feel more and more that every moment is precious, rich with possibilities and truly could never be a waste.

If the internet craps out while I’m writing this I’ll save it to a document offline.

If for some weird reason I couldn’t save the document offline at least I got 1,000 plus words of writing practice.

Nothing is ever a waste of time. Even if you didn’t learn a darn thing from the experience. The moment itself is the reward, whether you appear to get anything out of the experience or not.

Guest posting is the reward. Writing is the reward. Blog commenting and list building are the rewards. If for some reason I can’t guest post or blog comment or build a list, I am not wasting my time by NOT doing these things because the moment is the reward. Everything else is extra.

Blogging fears

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Your Turning Point

Honestly admit if you ducked certain blogging strategies because you deemed these techniques as “a waste of time.”

List building was a waste of time to me. I built a small list prior to creating Blogging From Paradise so figured I’d build a small list when I went live with BFP.

I eventually admitted my limiting belief, started list building and I add subscribers daily to my list.

That was the turning point. That is your turning point. But you need to dig deeper to uncover the true root of the time wasting limiting belief.

The Real Cause of this Limiting Belief

You only feel something is a waste of time because you believe you *will* fail with some blogging strategy.

If you had faith in some strategy you’d never view it as a waste of time.

Digging more deeply, you only feel you will fail with some blogging activity because of: fear.

You fear:

–since you failed at some venture in the past you will fail with blogging
–because you failed in the past at something you’re guaranteed to fail at guest posting or list building
–since you don’t predominantly love and accept yourself that you deserve to fail, to struggle and to be unhappy, and that successful bloggers are “lucky” or “blessed” or “talented”, without realizing we all need to face, embrace, feel, and dissolve this and many other mental blocks, to succeed.

The Rx

As I half confidently and half worriedly look at the waning 3G internet connection here (still human), I have the prescription for your “waste of time”-itis: blog predominantly for fun, with love.

Blogging for fun, with love:

–dissolves your heavy, fearful attachments to outcomes like blogging traffic and profits
–dissolves your fears of loss
–deconstructs and destroys a low sense of self-esteem and failure consciousness (2 energies creating the “waste of time” limiting belief)
–helps you develop a general attitude that traffic and profits are extras, or, icing on the cake
–inspires you to dive full bore into a few practical blogging activities every day, knowing that you are gradually promoting your blogging success by sticking to the fundamentals

Goodness, I wished I was pretty much detached from living a worldly life but I am not prepared to wake up at 2 AM to meditate and to go on alms at 6 AM daily to have food to eat. Ain’t gonna happen.

I have, however, developed this predominant vibe of blogging to have fun, to spread love and to help people so I never, ever, ever waste my time, even if it appears to be the case.

Follow your fun, blogging-wise. Blog to help people. Blog to love.

You can never waste your time with any blogging venture if you’re enjoying the ride because the ride itself – and not where it takes you – is the reward.

Ready to enjoy the blogging ride? Start having more fun, help people and make new friends with a new blog.

Photo Credit: Balloons Over Bagan

Author Bio:

Ryan Biddulph owns the website Blogging From Paradise. He’s a blogger, author and world traveler who’s been featured on Richard Branson’s Virgin Blog, Forbes, Fox News, Entrepreneur Dot Com and Neil Patel Dot Com. He has written and self-published 126 bite-sized eBooks on Amazon. Ryan can help you build a successful blog with the 11 Fundamentals of Successful Blogging Audio Course.

12 comments

  1. Annamarie   •  

    Absolutely, writing is the fun bit at the end of my life, I truly believe I deserve. I know the learning bits are not all that much fun, but I love learning always have and this is no different to any other time in my life when reinventing myself. I have lost count of how often that was.
    Certainly more than a dozen. But I hate research.Yesterday searching for a book cover it was fun and exciting.Yes research is exciting I tell my ego now. When you do what you need to do and even the things you hated all your life can suddenly become…. I really love this stuff.

    • Ryan Biddulph   •     Author

      Hi Annamarie,

      Reframing your formerly detested activities makes an amazing difference. Or, releasing them entirely, if they are just not in the cards 😉

      I don’t dislike research for eBooks as much as the fact that it is not necessary for me; only because my readers just want my experiences, and what I learned, to benefit them. I never built my brand on stats or “proof” or any of that stuff so they expect it not through my eBooks or posts.

      Thanks for the comment 🙂

      Ryan

    • Annamarie   •  

      Thank you, nice to meet you online.
      Research for me is the stuff one needs to do to publish, finding book covers Illustrators etc. getting all those things together is what I did not like one bit. But now my mind is more obedient, because we really like it and things are looking up.

      • Ryan Biddulph   •     Author

        Making that shift and seeing how the former drudge work benefits you and your readers are both neat 😉 What was heavy lifting becomes a breeze.

        RB

  2. Clare Newbury   •  

    Anything I do that involves writing feels worthwhile to me. I write because I enjoy it. I love language and words. None of the things mentioned seem like a waste of time to me. I am aware that other people often think I am wasting my time, but, being an extreme introvert, I have never concerned myself very much with what other people think.

    My problem these days is trying to get used to electronics and the devices currently used in writing. I don’t have a “smart phone”; my cell phone is a flip phone. I don’t have a laptop, just what is now considered and “old fashioned” desk computer. I have written and edited books on it. I hate touch screens, but am resigned to the idea that eventually I will have to deal with one. I am constantly Googling the terminology and acronyms people use when they write emails and text messages. I just learned how to text, and while I am proud of that small accomplishment, I don’t like doing it.

    I am enjoying learning from your emails and those from the people at AWAI. I can’t afford to sign up for anything that costs, but there is much to be gleaned just from the emails. And my kids help with the technical stuff.

    • Ryan Biddulph   •     Author

      Hi Clare,

      I dig how you are enjoying the ride. And how nothing writing-wise feels like a waste of time. Inspired stuff. Because it is a big mental block for many writers.

      As for the tech, even though things evolve I genuinely don’t see desktops/towers going out of circulation soon. If you can write, edit and submit eBooks or posts or anything on a tower you are good to go.

      Take heart; my wife Kelli and I bought our first *real* phone 6 months ago. Seriously. All this smartphone stuff is still new to me. Basic Chromebook I have, the smartphone and that is it. I am tech allergic 🙂

      Ryan

      • Clare Newbury   •  

        Thanks for responding, Ryan.

        The main problem with not having a laptop or a smart phone is that I can’t take my cumbersome desktop computer with me, and, obviously, I can’t be at home all the time. It’s difficult to work on jobs and projects that require me to be available by phone or email or social media all the time, or to meet deadlines, because I am often away, taking care of grandchildren among other things.

        I am constantly amazed at how much I can do with a computer, knowing as little as I do about their workings. I have never bought a computer; I always get hand-me-downs from my kids and friends.

        Clare

        • Ryan Biddulph   •     Author

          Hi Clare,

          My pleasure.

          Have you heard of a Chromebook? It could be a good fit for you. My wife and I both own Chromebooks. These are lightweight, simple to use laptops. If you have a Google account – either through gmail or Google Plus – you just sign in any time you turn on the Chromebook and you are all set to use it. No storage on the hard drive itself because it uses virtual storage, aka, all your stuff is stored on Google Drive, online. It is an idea to help you work remotely more easily. Inexpensive too; under $200 USD which is a solid price.

          As for the phone I do very little on our smartphone. Mainly, I use the Chromebook to create content and to make friends. Then I check my email every morning for a bit and that’s it.

          Ryan

  3. Wendy   •  

    Oh so true.. those little demon limiting beliefs need to be told to ‘shut the fu** up.. Keep them ‘under control’ or they will rule our inner worlds.. I couldn’t agree more.. since starting my blog a year ago, making fabulous connections with some amazing people across the world and keeping it ‘fun and filled with love’ has been a brilliant experience. I’m enjoying the journey. Thanks for the great reminder! x

    • Ryan Biddulph   •     Author

      Hi Wendy,

      STFU does work well, LOL.

      Creating and connecting feels awesome. It’s why we blog. So since you’re loving the blogging bit for the past year, and enjoying the journey, you’re in an awesome energetic space to rock it out.

      Thank you 🙂

      Ryan

  4. Wendy   •  

    Absolutely.. I am rocking my blog space!? x

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